Earlier on tonight a family friend was talking to me on skype and asked me a very difficult question. She has no womb from a hysterectomy she had after a car accident. She's 27 and has no children. She asked me whether after she got married in 3 years if I would carry her baby for her. I told her I'd think about it but it didn't take me long to realise that couldn't carry another womans baby after the struggles I've been through just to carry my own. I'm gonna tell her I can't do it. I know it sounds cruel to deny her a baby. But I know I'd never be able to hand over the baby to her. In a way ok selfish because when it comes to having children I'm looking after myself. No matter what your opinion is on me saying this. Asking an infertile to carry your baby is in my book unfair.
Cara x
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8 years ago
3 comments:
You are not seflish. After 3 years of dealing with Infertility...I wouldn't carry another couples baby either. I don't think that makes me selfish. Like I told you before, that is a very hard favor to ask an Infertile. So don't feel bad about it.
I don't think you are being selfish. I don't think I would be able to do it either. If she was a really close friend of mine though and she wasn't wanting a decision for a couple of years I would maybe say I'd think about it. If I had my own child between now and 3 years than maybe I would. But of course this is your body and your choice. You shouldn't feel guilty at all for your decision.
I agree with Ashley and Roxy. I think every woman deserves the right to be selfish with her own womb! Its the most personal thing you'll ever have. Its one thing if you've already had your children by that point, and maybe you'll feel differently... and then you can cross that bridge when you come to it. But she should not plan on putting her eggs in your basket, so to speak.
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